The Opening of Gifts

Have you ever met anyone who doesn’t enjoy receiving a gift? 
It’s a universal joy.  Gifts are a delightful part of life. 

As a gift giver, we try to find that special something that will delight, or enrich, or bring about a smile.  But whether or not we find that perfect gift, the process of thinking and searching can help connect us with the life of that other person.  And whether our gift is new or used, factory made or home made, a tangible gift or a service promised, the goal is the same.  Giving the gift is our symbolic way of saying “I love you and want you to be happy”.

We’ve always tried to stretch out the gift-exchange in our house so that we can savor the process.  We each take turns, with a spotlight on each person as they open a gift.  It’s fun to fuss a bit and provide a proper welcome for each gift.

But is gratitude guaranteed during this process?  Does a mountain of holiday gifts automatically translate into a mountain of appreciation? We all know that life is not this simple.

Feelings arise on their own and sometimes kids, and adults, may feel disappointed instead of grateful when they open a present.  That can certainly happen, particularly if we come in with clear expectations and strong hopes.  But feelings often run their course quite quickly, especially if we keep a light touch.

I once received a mug that I didn’t like at all.  In a million years I would never have chosen that mug to bring home.  But I grew fond of it and used it for years because I associated it with the gift-giver and it made me smile.  I grew to love it.  That’s not to say that gifts can’t be returned, but adding a touch of graciousness and appreciation to the process will help everyone involved.

May you give with love.
May you receive with graciousness.
And may you recognize the unique nature of your good fortune.